Why doesn't China's public sphere work?

Chinese distinguish very much between what is within the private and public sphere and the attitude can be very extreme. We treat those inside the private sphere caring and selfish-less, while those outside of it, incredibly rude and careless. This disheartened me very much thinking of having a life here.

I can think of a few reasons leading to this phenomenon:

1. Lack of spiritual practice to guide us towards moral behaviors
2. Disproportionated opportunity vs population which leads everyone sees everyone else as a competitor in one way or another: it can be a promotion in the office or a seat in the subway
3. Huge insecurity caused from private property turned public overnight as well as other revolutionary changes

It is not a hopeless situation thought it'll take a few generations to reverse the mentality. It also has a lot to do with securing the rights of the individuals rather than the bigger group, regardless of the nice excuses (aka propaganda) we have been told all the time.

The question comes to - if I see any light? I am afraid not yet.