Does marriage matter?
I am trying to figure out if getting registered for marriage does matter or not. Based on what you decide that you want to get married instead of living together? What significant difference it really makes?
There was a conversation between me and 2 engaged guys (both getting married soon) today. It sounded like the most natural thing to do after some time of being together with a girl. But if I am sure that Aron is the person that I want to spend my life with, why do I have to marry him? What will be different on the first day after the "big day" - really curious about it! I should email Vero!
If two people consider marriage as a life long commitment, then taking the vow is certainly a big milestone for their relationship. I am wondering how those in an unmarried long-term relationship VS a marriage feel differently about their relationships and their beloved ones.
I guess this can be a good panel discussion topic for "world cafe" type of sessions by having different cultures presenting their views on marriage. I would love to host it!
There was a conversation between me and 2 engaged guys (both getting married soon) today. It sounded like the most natural thing to do after some time of being together with a girl. But if I am sure that Aron is the person that I want to spend my life with, why do I have to marry him? What will be different on the first day after the "big day" - really curious about it! I should email Vero!
If two people consider marriage as a life long commitment, then taking the vow is certainly a big milestone for their relationship. I am wondering how those in an unmarried long-term relationship VS a marriage feel differently about their relationships and their beloved ones.
I guess this can be a good panel discussion topic for "world cafe" type of sessions by having different cultures presenting their views on marriage. I would love to host it!
posted by Jingwei @ 4:58 PM
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2 Comments:
The actual procedure of marriage become important when you want it to be. Yes, supposedly it is the "right" thing to do. What is "right" is only defined by you and him :) No one else should determine it. I guess this is an American point of view of "rights to privacy". I think western world is not so pressured by these rules of responsibility and obligation. When I was in China last, I even felt the pressure to get married, so I can imagine how stereotypical Chinese have no other perspective other than follow the rule without questioning. Some are at peace with following the rules & traditions, but many are not at peace in their heart as to why they cheat and lie. The truth if very simple, do what's comfortable for both of you. I view marriage as a personal matter that is not an issues to be judged by others.
Pearl :)
but what about the gays and les bian people we should have a right to.?
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